Comments on: until i have kids http://kristafinch.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/ Tue, 22 Feb 2011 14:54:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: spectaprod http://kristafinch.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-160 spectaprod Fri, 06 Jul 2007 17:53:09 +0000 http://pendrops.wordpress.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/#comment-160 Wow Krista, you generated a bunch with this post. If you're worried about losing yourself in your kids... well, isn't that what nannies are for? ;) Wow Krista, you generated a bunch with this post. If you’re worried about losing yourself in your kids… well, isn’t that what nannies are for? ;)

]]> By: Deana http://kristafinch.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-167 Deana Fri, 06 Jul 2007 14:22:59 +0000 http://pendrops.wordpress.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/#comment-167 Book recommendation: "Parenting the way God Parents - Refusing to Recycle Your Parents' Mistakes" by Katherine Koonce This is the best book I have ever read on the subject. Book recommendation:

“Parenting the way God Parents – Refusing to Recycle Your Parents’ Mistakes” by Katherine Koonce

This is the best book I have ever read on the subject.

]]> By: Susan http://kristafinch.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-166 Susan Fri, 06 Jul 2007 04:51:56 +0000 http://pendrops.wordpress.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/#comment-166 Wow - it is so weird. Here I have been having the same thoughts - okay, more like panic attacks - regarding parenthood. As Tim and I contemplate becoming parents in the near future, I have been getting cold feet, wondering - "Do I know what I'm getting myself into?" and "What do I know about being a parent anyway??" I've heard the exact same "words of wisdom" you have heard and I have to conclude that somehow it's gotta be worth it! I really don't want to miss out on this! I watch other people's kids and I get so annoyed with their cries and snotty noses. But as my mom says, "It's different when they're your own." I sure hope so. I think I'd like to take the risk of being a parent and strive to maintain a life of my own at the same time. I think you have to. I think it's necessary that your child sees this. I like the mom you described at the local bookstore. That's how I picture myself in the future. I'm sure you'll be like this, too. Wow – it is so weird. Here I have been having the same thoughts – okay, more like panic attacks – regarding parenthood. As Tim and I contemplate becoming parents in the near future, I have been getting cold feet, wondering – “Do I know what I’m getting myself into?” and “What do I know about being a parent anyway??” I’ve heard the exact same “words of wisdom” you have heard and I have to conclude that somehow it’s gotta be worth it! I really don’t want to miss out on this! I watch other people’s kids and I get so annoyed with their cries and snotty noses. But as my mom says, “It’s different when they’re your own.” I sure hope so. I think I’d like to take the risk of being a parent and strive to maintain a life of my own at the same time. I think you have to. I think it’s necessary that your child sees this. I like the mom you described at the local bookstore. That’s how I picture myself in the future. I’m sure you’ll be like this, too.

]]> By: pendrops http://kristafinch.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-165 pendrops Thu, 05 Jul 2007 22:37:03 +0000 http://pendrops.wordpress.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/#comment-165 You all have added sweet, honest and thought-provoking dimensions to this post. Thanks so much for your insightful pendroppings! You all have added sweet, honest and thought-provoking dimensions to this post. Thanks so much for your insightful pendroppings!

]]> By: Smitty http://kristafinch.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-161 Smitty Thu, 05 Jul 2007 21:27:42 +0000 http://pendrops.wordpress.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/#comment-161 Great post Pendrops! In marriage, they say if your world revolves around your spouse, you'll just end up annoying them to death. There HAS to be level of individuality maintained. I don't have kids, but I would think the same applies. When a parent gives up everything that defined them for full-time 24/7 child rearing, the kid gains nothing. The kid, like your spouse, needs you to have a life outside of them. Personally, I don't think we give kids enough credit. I believe they can take care of themselves a lot earlier than we think, but we load ourselves up with the responsibility of attending their every move - while simutaneously tying our goals and dreams to the stake for sacrifical burning. (heck, we even provide the gasoline and offer to light the match sometimes) One day the kids will be long gone. Don't get caught like Stevie Nicks did and be afraid of changing cause you built your life around your kids. One day they'll be older...and you'll be older too. Great post Pendrops!

In marriage, they say if your world revolves around your spouse, you’ll just end up annoying them to death. There HAS to be level of individuality maintained.

I don’t have kids, but I would think the same applies. When a parent gives up everything that defined them for full-time 24/7 child rearing, the kid gains nothing. The kid, like your spouse, needs you to have a life outside of them.

Personally, I don’t think we give kids enough credit. I believe they can take care of themselves a lot earlier than we think, but we load ourselves up with the responsibility of attending their every move – while simutaneously tying our goals and dreams to the stake for sacrifical burning. (heck, we even provide the gasoline and offer to light the match sometimes)

One day the kids will be long gone. Don’t get caught like Stevie Nicks did and be afraid of changing cause you built your life around your kids. One day they’ll be older…and you’ll be older too.

]]> By: Pat Winn http://kristafinch.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-164 Pat Winn Thu, 05 Jul 2007 15:02:37 +0000 http://pendrops.wordpress.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/#comment-164 Krista, being a mother was the best days of my life. I wish I could go back to those days again. Yes, they were hurried and somethings didn't get done. But, my mother-in-law, God bless her soul, taught me that the chores would all ways be there but the children wouldn't and now I know how true those words were. I am so glad to have found your web site. I am going to let my daughter know of you web site because she likes to write also. Krista, being a mother was the best days of my life. I wish I could go back to those days again. Yes, they were hurried and somethings didn’t get done. But, my mother-in-law, God bless her soul, taught me that the chores would all ways be there but the children wouldn’t and now I know how true those words were. I am so glad to have found your web site. I am going to let my daughter know of you web site because she likes to write also.

]]> By: Deana http://kristafinch.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-163 Deana Wed, 04 Jul 2007 19:31:46 +0000 http://pendrops.wordpress.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/#comment-163 Yes, life does change and definitely for the better! Every family situation is different, some things change for some but stay the same for others, and vice versa. I used to have uninterrupted sleep, phone conversations, lunch dates, I used to be able to start a project and finish it the same day (ha, ha!), many things have changed...but I've traded those little "luxeries" for a sweet baby girl that I wouldn't trade for the world, serenity in my life since I quit "working" to stay home with her, non stop entertainment, a new found joy in going to the zoo, the park or any other "childhood" destination and I am experiencing a love that I never knew my heart could feel. And you know, there are some things I've given up doing not because I had to but because what I once thought I needed in my life, I no longer do. It's just not important to me anymore. Things will change but the best thing you can do for yourself and your marriage is to communicate what matters most and work together to allow each other, and your marriage, to retain those things, no matter what. But like anything in life, you just never know till you are in those shoes. You'll be a great mom Krista! Yes, life does change and definitely for the better! Every family situation is different, some things change for some but stay the same for others, and vice versa. I used to have uninterrupted sleep, phone conversations, lunch dates, I used to be able to start a project and finish it the same day (ha, ha!), many things have changed…but I’ve traded those little “luxeries” for a sweet baby girl that I wouldn’t trade for the world, serenity in my life since I quit “working” to stay home with her, non stop entertainment, a new found joy in going to the zoo, the park or any other “childhood” destination and I am experiencing a love that I never knew my heart could feel. And you know, there are some things I’ve given up doing not because I had to but because what I once thought I needed in my life, I no longer do. It’s just not important to me anymore.

Things will change but the best thing you can do for yourself and your marriage is to communicate what matters most and work together to allow each other, and your marriage, to retain those things, no matter what. But like anything in life, you just never know till you are in those shoes. You’ll be a great mom Krista!

]]> By: sue http://kristafinch.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-162 sue Wed, 04 Jul 2007 15:33:51 +0000 http://pendrops.wordpress.com/2007/07/03/until-i-have-kids/#comment-162 Your life does change, but only for the better...believe me, I know!! Your mom Your life does change, but only for the better…believe me, I know!!
Your mom

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